SECURE LOVE, ACTUALLY WORDS BY MELANIE HANCILL From anxious to secure - what's your relationship attachment style and how can a better understanding of it help you move forward? 50 H ave you ever wondered why you find yourself stuck with the same unhealthy relationship dynamics, no matter who you're with? Perhaps you always obsessively worry that your partner might leave. Or maybe you find it hard to get close to people and pull away when things get serious. Chances are, it's your attachment style running the show. Attachment style theory addresses the way we relate, or attach, to our romantic partners - and it can be traced back to our earliest childhood experiences. " How love was modelled to you as a child is