Mindsets to Help Set Boundaries Your mindset-the thoughts that guide you-affect the questions you ask yourself and can steer you toward healthy or unhealthy boundaries. While it can be easy to default to a relapse mindset, all family members and people struggling with substances are encouraged to shift toward using the recovery mindset. Default Mindset * How do I keep someone else sober/alive? * How do I keep others happy? * How do I get what I want? Recovery Mindset * How do I want my household/ environment to be? * How do I need to use my resources (financial, emotional, time, energy)? * How do I get what I need? Reflection Questions * Barriers that keep me from using the recovery mindset are: * What values help focus my recovery mindset? * I will know I'm operating from my recovery mindset when: 18