My Recovery Plan * Check only those actions that apply to your situation and that you are committed to doing. * Identify your three most important actions. * Share this with your family member, and ask them what matters the most to them about your recovery plan. I will: Support your abstinence from all mood-altering substances. Respect your wish if you prefer I don't use alcohol or drugs around you. Support your attendance at Twelve Step meetings. Attend Al-Anon, Families Anonymous or other recovery meetings. Recognize and work on my unhealthy behaviors. Seek counseling for me or for us. Help you to think of new things to do that don't involve substances. Ask you if I can help you avoid relapse triggers. Listen and respond in a non-reactive way, if you need to talk about cravings. Let you experience your natural consequences. Treat you with respect, and expect the same from you. Honor your privacy. Give you more responsibilities to help you become independent. Let you make your own appointments. Clarify new roles and boundaries at home. Resist my urge to fix your problems. Listen without judgment. Talk about my feelings but not tell you how you should feel. Walk away if either one of us loses it. Not blame anyone for your addiction. Let go of secrets and shame. Deal with my anxiety over letting go of control. Pursue my personal goals and interests. Schedule more fun things with friends. Develop friendships with people who understand addiction and recovery. Acknowledge that I am responsible for my happiness. Appreciate the progress we are making. Keep my peace of mind. Tolerate ups and downs as part of recovery. Acknowledge that we have our own separate journeys. Remember that recovery is a lifelong process and healing this relationship may take months or years. Practice the Serenity Prayer. 32