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Holiday visits with grandparents who live
in a condominium
A
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for
Grandparents
BY KAREN L. RANCOURT
M
any grandparents living in condominiums
and apartments in warm climates look forward to their grown children and grandchildren visiting them over the holidays. In fact, many
grandparents buy a unit with a second or third bedroom in anticipation of these visits.
However, many young parents think twice about these
visits because some of the other residents make it known
that they don't appreciate having other residents' grandchildren around. They show their disapproval with stony
looks and meant-to-be overheard comments, e.g., "Must
be school vacation time. That takes care of our peace and
quiet." More than one young parent has thought about
staying in a local hotel, or not visiting at all - actions that
deprive the grandparents of special time living with their
grandchildren and fussing over them.
Three ways to make these
visits more enjoyable.
1. Align with other
grandparents
Many condominiums come with a
ready-made support group for grandparents.
For example, according to the 2010 US Census,
in many counties in Flordia, the 65+ population
comprises 20%. This statistic can work to advantage
because it means that there are lots of other grandparents around who also want their grandchildren to visit.
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Get to know these other grandparents, chat with them,
learn the names of their grandchildren and arrange for
your grandchildren to play with them. A large group of
grandparents and grandchildren socializing together
in common areas like the pool or beach can intimidate
even the grumpiest of the grumpy ones into silence!
2. Be proactive
Get out in front of potential problems. For example,
if there is a group of people in the pool taking a water
aerobics class or just "bobbing" together, approach them
and let them know that your grandchildren would like to
use the other end of the pool and that you just want to
make sure the children won't be bothering them. Then
every now and then, circle back to the adults to make
sure your grandkids aren't disturbing them. This show of
respect for them can go a long way, especially when one
of the grumpy ones begins to complain about your kids.
Typically, someone will say something like, "Oh, I have
grandchildren! Don't worry about it. They're fine."
3. Teach lobby manners
Teaching this simple phrase, "I want to see lobby
manners, please," when the grandchildren are young
can short-circuit all kinds of situations in condominium
or apartment living. The kids know the phrases means,
for example, no racing in the lobby or hallways, no
shouting or roughhousing, no pushing all the buttons
in the elevator.
These three suggestions can help make it possible
for the grandchildren visiting their grandparents in their
condos and apartments to have fun together while at
the same time being respectful of the other residents.
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