GRAND Magazine - September/October 2019 - 28

invisible grands

Learning the language of gender
BY PAT HANSON

W

e've all heard the admonition "it's not what you say, but how you say it."
With the attention given today to a wide array of gender and sexual stereotypes, we need to watch, in addition to our tone, the words we use.
There is still much confusion around labels for folks who fall somewhere in the
range of what is presumed the majority.
Forty years ago, when I first taught human sexuality it was common to refer to
people who were not in the majority regarding sexual choices and behaviors as
LGBT. Now in many circles the proper acronym is LGBTQIA. We may hear many
questions about all the different terms. Let's clear up the confusion.

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Gender is one of those things everyone thinks
they understand, but most people don't.

First, we must distinguish between Gender: the biological sex organs (male or
female) one is born with, and how that is expressed. Gender is one of those things
everyone thinks they understand, but most people don't.
As of January 1, 2019, the California DMV began allowing individuals to choose
a gender category of male, female, or non-binary on their Driver's License ID card.
What does Non-binary mean? It is the term for a spectrum of gender identities
that are not exclusively masculine or exclusively feminine.
We must learn not to make assumptions about a person's gender, sexual identity, or sexual expression. The concept of gender fluidity is now touted because
changes in self-identified categories can occur over time.
Now let's clear up the acronyms.
L refers to lesbians, women who are attracted to other women, and may or
may not act on their feelings.
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