Arthur Carroll: Presence of Big Carl remains. Marjorie Joyce: Loss of a son remains "a focal point." of being with my mother as she was dying." Laura's mother was in and out of the hospital and hospice during the final years and days. Laura visited her in Louisiana frequently. "People often do better with hospice care. I knew He called me and said we'd go fishing when he got out. I didn't know that'd be the last time we'd talk. 78 | MAY/JUNE 2016 she could live longer [there], although it is antithetical. I discovered that with her in hospice, I could be a daughter. I was amazed at how I could step back and not muscle my way in. I was afraid I would try to be a nurse." Finally, it came down to dying at home. "That gave us all a chance to be what we were to mother," says Laura. "She was the one perTHEROANOKER.COMhttp://www.THEROANOKER.COM