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HOW TO BY CARRIE SCHEDLER

Don't bear the
burden of an
illness alone.

HOW TO

When you've received difficult health
news, you need support. Here's how to
tell your loved ones

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W IN TER 2016

Take a deep breath.

Your demeanor when you break the news will have a
huge impact on how people take it, Kelleher says, so
finding as much calm as you can before you begin the
conversation will help. "If you present it as a crisis, people will feed off your fear," she says. Even if the news
is indeed crisis level, you can breed a more supportive

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SHARE A
DIAGNOSIS

Getting an upsetting diagnosis from the
doctor is hard enough. But you can't bear
the news alone. Eventually, you'll have to
share with loved ones that you're going to be facing a
tough time.
Going into the conversation with a supportive
mentality can make a world of difference, says Mary
Kelleher, a licensed marriage and family therapist and
a clinical member of the American Association for
Marriage and Family Therapy. She specializes in dealing
with chronic illnesses.
"You have to make it clear that what you're
going through, you're going to face it as a team,"
Kelleher says.
Here are her tips for talking your family through
difficult news.



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