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Set digital boundaries.
Do your college friends use
Facebook as their personal rage
diaries? Mute them.
"Take control-unfriend, unfollow, whatever you have to do to give
yourself some space," Burch says. If
they're the types who text or call to
air grievances, one of Burch's favorite tips is to set their ring tone and
text alerts to silent-that way, you
can engage on your own terms.
Try to have a little empathy.
Sometimes, negative people just
want to be heard, and offering up
some empathy while keeping them
at arm's length can provide comfort
for the complainer without forcing
you to take on their burden.
"Simply acknowledging their
feelings and saying something along
the lines of 'Oh yes, that did happen,'
and letting that be enough, can
really be the most effective," Burch
says. "You're not ignoring them,
you're hearing what they're saying,
but you're stopping there."
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Take a hard line when you
have to.
Dealing with a
friend who is
always a downer?
Set his or her ring
tone and text
message alert to
silent. That way,
you only have to
talk when you
want to.
In instances where a person's
behavior starts to mess with your
head but you can't readily avoid
them-say, with an overly dramatic
co-worker-it can help to have a
more direct conversation about particular triggering issues that might
be easily controlled, such as keeping
workplace conversations focused on
work. Will it be a difficult conversation? Yes-but a necessary one.
"Be specific about problematic
behaviors you'd like to see changed,"
Burch says. "And recognize that for
some truly toxic people, they might
not be able to change."*
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