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brought me more stress, more headaches, a double dose of both work and mom guilt (simultaneous
at times...yuck), lots of bad eating habits and, you guessed it, a ton of weight gain. What it didn't
get me was more time with my son in his earlier years.
While I often have to learn things the hard way, I try not to look back on that time with regret
because it taught me a lot. It reminded me to make the most important thing, the most important
thing. Your family, your health, your mental wellbeing...these things are important. Your job yes, it
is important too but set limits and boundaries and hold firm to them, for your own sake and sanity.
From what we have learned (even during a pandemic but especially during it) is the work will be
there. It won't all get done in one day nor are you expected to get it done in one day. Your main
goal as a working mother, in my humble opinion, is to think about the true legacy you are creating.
The legacy that you are creating everyday through the lives of your kid(s). "
Dr. Stephanie Carter
Director of Residence Life/Mother of One
Wake Forest University
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" Your priorities shift. The type of person you were when you went on maternity leave will not be the
same person that returns. In many ways, it was the best thing that happened to me. I didn't let the
little things bother me as much - I had bigger, more important priorities. I was a lot more at peace
with not getting all of the things done all of the time. But it was also really hard. Honestly a lot harder
than I expected. I urge you to set strict boundaries with yourself and others. Additionally, be sure to
lean on your support system for help. When work is supportive, take your baby to after-hours events
and meetings. Work-life balance/integration looks differently now. I'll never forget when the world
shut down at the start of the pandemic. Daycare closed and we were mostly working from home. I
strapped my 10-month baby to my chest and walked three-flights of stairs across 17 buildings in my
complex checking rooms and in some cases packing up students' rooms. I'd take breaks in between
to pump or breastfeed and there wasn't anything else I could do about it. My needs had to be
accommodated and we met halfway when necessary. "
Kimberly Bradley
Assistant Director of Residence Life/ Mother of One
Virginia Commonwealth University
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" It's important to state my reflexivity on this topic. I am a Married, cis-gender, white, mother of
two children. I currently serve as the Interim Director of Housing and Residence Life at a mid-sized
school in the southeast. Prior to this role, I have worked in Residence Life professionally for nearly 10
years.
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